Love Advice for Your Relationship
Mankind is essentially spiritual. I don’t even understand how people can discredit the unseen when they are aware of its presence all around them. We walk through a sea of air which cannot be seen. Radio waves that we cannot see are passing through us constantly. We’re bombarded by atoms and neutrons and protons that are completely invisible. We scientifically understand the spaces that exist between the actual “matters” of even the densest materials on earth are big enough to drive a truck through. Yet we see, touch and feel them as if they are solid. Science has taught us the unseen is much vaster and varied than the material world we look at every day. There are colors we cannot see and sounds we cannot hear but we know they exist.
We can’t see the wind but we can feel the wind so we know it is there. Similarly we cannot see love but we can feel love so we know it is there. Where does love begin and end? From where does love originate? Are you, as an individual, able to manufacture love? The answer is no, you draw love from an unseen source. In fact, I will state it quite candidly. We are in a perpetual infinite sea of love itself. When we seek love it is like a fish in the ocean seeking water. The very substance of love is the substance of the universe. But because we have free will we are able to close off that part of us which receives love and imagine it doesn’t exist for us; but it does.
In the temporary confines of our human selves we lose sight of reality, the love that surrounds us. We imagine we have to find love and when we find the right person we give love. This world can be seen as a terrible place when we don’t feel loved. We get into all sorts of mischief desperately seeking someone to love and someone who will love us in return. But there is a trick. The trick is to recognize relationships as a very specific reality within this unreality, a safe environment where we can give our love without fear. When we have established the relationship of a marriage or our intention to be married we agree to open our hearts so love can flow through without restrictions. As a human being you are capable of loving every single human being in the world. Why don’t you? Somehow you have it in your head that if you love everyone and everything you become vulnerable, so you restrict yourself and feel the pain of the restriction. Now I’m not saying that you should become promiscuous or a flower child of the sixties. I am saying giving love is not the same as expressing love. When you are in a safe relationship, i.e. marriage, you can express love fully and that is in fact one of the purposes of marriage. The point is when you are in a marital relationship it is to your benefit to give love in as many great ways as you can imagine. When you do so you open up a channel within yourself and you are able to feel and receive the love you are giving.
We have all heard the expression that the more love you give the more you’ll receive. It is a true statement but completely misunderstood. It isn’t as people imagine that when you give love to others they will want to love you back. People love who they love, not those who love them. What the saying means is when you give love you are experiencing the love that is flowing through you. The fact of the matter is giving love allows you to feel love in more of an adulterated form. The love that you give is coming directly from the source of love, rather than the filtered version that comes from someone else. Does this make sense to you? So, interestingly, you receive far more love by giving it than by getting it.
We are essentially spiritual beings who thrive on love because love comes from the same source we come from: God. To deny God is to deny love and to deny love is to deny God. This is not a religious thought but rather a very practical thought that allows us to enjoy our existence. There is no greater enjoyment and feeling than love. So please remember to tell your spouse or your significant other, “I love you.”
Paul Friedman
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If you are a parent, what would you advice your daughter if she is in a long distance love relationship?
To all parents out there: If your daughter/son is in a long distance love relationship what would you advice your daughter/son on how to make his/her fiance/fiancee feel love? even if they are miles and miles apart. Please give examples, if you could.
It really depends on whether the couple have met each other or not. If they haven’t yet met, then it’s not the real thing in my opinion. It’s more of an infatuation of an image of the person. I’ve known people that fall in love online and then meet and are not at all attracted to each other. It’s part fantasy till you have the eye to eye thing. So I’d advise my son/daughter to hold back and concentrate on meeting as soon as possible.
As far as how to show love while apart….communication works. Send letters, make calls. Send each other little gifts and pictures. Baked items mailed is a nice touch too. Military couples have done all this for years.
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Personal experience.
If she is really in love the distance is going to make that feeling stronger. It is very romantic situation and probably she will feel like no body will stop her love… not only the distance.
If you are worried about her leaving you… you must start thinking that the goal of the parents is to let the kids when they are prepared to fly alone. Trust on your values and education!
If you are worried about the potential damage that the distance can make on the relationship… I think is the same in any relationship. Let the things to happen… that is part of her experience.
But just let her know that you are there for her. A friend to listen to her worries and a mother to comfort her heart.
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my experience
send small care packages once every two weeks besides talking on the phone. just have to put things like a picture, a letter, and something like cookies, something to remind the person far away of something they did together or shared. even just a small note a few times a week can make a difference, and bond them.
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She can send letters. Sometimes it easier to express how you feel on paper. You can say things you really want to say when your with that special someone.
Make certain days or nights, the nights that they call each other, or chat online at certain times.
However it also depends on how old this couple are.
If they are mere children, I wouldnt promote very much as they neednt feel tied down to just one person. They are still learning about themselves.
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There are different ways to show your love in a long distance relationship. Computer access is so easy now-a-days and the biggest website is www.myspace.com. They can both set up a free profile with them and send each other emails, messages, graphics, and tons of other stuff.
You can have flowers sent to someone, write letters in the regular mail (because it gives them something to look forward to), send pictures, if you have a video camera you can make a video and send it. If you like making things you can make your own home made cards to send, a scrapbook full of pictures of when they were together, or even a scrapbook full of love letters.
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The best advise I ever got was to not date someone I was not willing to marry. Long distance isn’t bad, but dating someone you don’t see yourself with is a mistake. If you date them you might fall in love. If you fall in love and get married and find yourself in a place you don’t want to be.
My advise to you is as a Mom or Dad is not to give your kids unsolicited advise, unless she is still a minor.
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Hi My name is Ana and if i were the mother of the daughter i would tell her there are more guys out there and i am sure if she wanted she would find a boy in were she lives there are pleanty of fish out there .
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need more info on this. have they met? how long have they known each other? why are they apart?
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