A later stage in our spiritual maturation process is the development of spiritual universal love where wisdom or spiritual discrimination is now added to our love. We now perceive all forms as various manifestations of one unchanging, ever blissful, divine consciousness.

In this state we experience pure love in which we cannot distinguish between the other and ourselves. Christ referred to this state saying, “I am in you and you are in me.”

Although, as in the previous stage, we continue to help and serve wherever we can, we are not so affected by the pain and suffering we encounter. We realize that the real spiritual consciousness expressing itself through that form has chosen to pass through that experience because it is exactly the next stimulus, which he or she needs for his or her spiritual growth process. We are now aware that we are all passing through the precise experiences, pleasant and unpleasant, which we need in order to wake up from our dream of this illusory material reality.

Although we are not affected by the suffering we see, we are even more wholly dedicated toward eliminating it. Thus, we love and accept all beings as they are while we direct our energies toward facilitating this process of our mutual spiritual unfoldment. Each of us moves forward in his or her own unique way.

Previously we may have tried to solve people’s problems for them. Now we realize that the most effective way we can others is to love and accept them as they are and empower them to find their own inner wisdom and strength in order to overcome their problems.

We now realize that the main solution for the world’s economic, political and social problems is education.

We experience such “wise love” or “loving wisdom” from the highest spiritual teachers. It is sometimes difficult to understand their love and caring, which at times to the beginner, may seem like indifference, especially when we pass through tests and expect sympathy and emotional reactions.

It is difficult for some to realize that it is sometimes more loving to allow someone to suffer a little more so he or she can find the solution him or herself and grow stronger and freer from ignorance. Only a realized being can know, however, when “not to help” externally because this would be the most loving act for a specific person.

Many parents would do well to learn this form of wise love. They might help their children far more if they refrain from solving their problems every time they are in trouble.

No one should, however, misconceive that this text is suggesting that we should not help those who are in need. We must help, but we must also ask ourselves what the most appropriate help would be in each situation.

The greatest and most precious help we can offer to those we love, is to help them get in touch with their inner power and wisdom. This, at times, means helping, and at others, means letting them struggle by themselves while we mentally pray for them and visualize them in light.

For an awakened spiritual being to see someone cry about some unhappy event in his or her life or fear some future possibility, might be like our watching a small child cry about a toy that has broken or express fear of the “boogie man.” We sympathize with and understand the child’s feelings. We love it and we want to help it, but we cannot really be worried.

Those who experience this level of love sometimes do not exhibit the emotional display which others may be used to interpreting as indications of love. As we grow spiritually, we begin to understand, however, that real love is a love for the soul within the other, which is seeking to free itself from ignorance and the illusion of weakness and fear.

These spiritually awakened beings offer help on other levels through their positive thought forms, prayers or sometimes, direct contact on the astral level, usually in dreams.

In this way, help is given without undermining the others’ self-confidence.

Loving the Wave or the Ocean

Part 6 of a 6 part series on the “The Stages of Love”

Robert Elias Najemy

When we limit our love to a specific person (we do not mean sexually, but rather emotionally, mentally and spiritually), it is difficult to experience love in its highest expression. We love this person and not others. We tend to focus on a specific person, “loving” them often because they offer us security, pleasure or affirmation; or because we consider them to be “ours.”

Pure love is universal. It can express itself toward any particular being, but it cannot limit itself to that being or group of beings. If it does, then it is love mixed with conditions. Each individual is one of the countless waves on an ocean of consciousness. The ocean is the One Universal Consciousness, which is temporarily taking the form of those specific waves and then disappearing into the formlessness of the ocean again before reappearing as billions of others. All waves are expressions of the one ocean.

When we single out one specific wave from the ocean of beings and limit our love to that, we are, in essence, loving an illusion. That being which we love is just a temporary manifestation of the one Universal Being, which manifests as all the other beings simultaneously.

That form on which we focus is a temporary physical, emotional, mental manifestation that will dissolve back into the ocean. When we love the water in that wave, that is, its spiritual essence, the spirit within, we begin to love all waves. The same water is in all the waves. The same spiritual essence is in all beings.

Then we love the spiritual essence in others and not only their form or the specific benefits that we receive from them. We love the spirit within.

Our love now becomes both unconditional and universal. It is unconditional because it does not depend on what others do or do not do, and universal because we start to love more and more people independent of their appearance, character and other superficial factors. We love the spirit within them. We as spirit are one with the spirit, which is within them.

So we can love the wave or we can love the ocean and thus all the waves. This is our choice.

Love is like the gold ore that is brought up from the earth; it is mixed with other metals (emotions, needs). Our job is to purify that gold through our efforts to love unconditionally in all of our relationships, no matter what the other does or does not do.

Only then will we truly be happy.
Only then will experience our true Self.

Be sure to look for the remaining the parts of this series:

1. What is Love ?
2. Love or Need for Security ?
3. Love, Pleasure or Affirmation?
4. Selfless Love
5. Spiritual Universal Love

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1. Just start to think logically and you will know that harassing your ex is not the way to go. Your ex will find you annoying and will just avoid you altogether. If you are overdoing it, it can even be considered as a criminal offence. If you really want to get your ex back, please avoid this mistake!

2. You should also avoid being too emotional. What is the point of cooping yourself at home and weeping at one corner of the house? Crying will not solve the problem. It is high time you dry your tears and start thinking about what to do next. If you really want to get ur ex back, please avoid this mistake!

3. You should never get personal with your ex and try to take revenge on your ex as this will really decrease the likelihood of you trying to get your ex back again. Such unethical acts will include going around and badmouthing your ex or even spilling your ex secrets to others. If you really want to get your ex back, please avoid this mistake!

Do you want your ex back? Do you want to get your ex back? How are you going to get your ex back? Learning how to get your ex back is not some rocket science; it is all possible if you know how! In the article, I have gone through a systematic plan which lays the foundation for you to learn how to get ur ex back.

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With that in mind, lets go over what you should and shouldn’t do to get an ex back. You should never harass your ex with calls and texts begging them to get back together. Doing this worsens your chances by making you look immature and like you don’t have stability.

You should also never threaten your ex if they don’t want to get back together with you. The threat doesn’t have to be hostile, it can be a threat not to leave them alone or leave their apartment door all night. I have a friend whose boyfriend wouldn’t leave her apartment door all night unless she answered.

He wound up getting arrested for harassment. This is “stalker” behavior,and its not a good thing for getting an ex back in your arms. Don’t buy and send flowers to your ex every day or day after day. Don’t get your ex a bracelet or a silver watch to buy yourself back into their arms.

What you should do is have the ability to change. Change is a powerful asset that we all have. Its just that most people aren’t willing to change. If you can change for the better, you can get your ex back. The next thing you should do is show your ex something positive about you.

Doing things like changing your hairstyle, buy new clothes that show confidence and stability, or working out more are all positive things that help clear your mind. When you do something positive, you act positive. You should also have a line of communication with your ex.

How can you get your ex back if they don’t even know you want to get back together. It doesn’t matter if you communicate to your ex through their friends, family members or to them directly. Just have a way of letting your ex know that you want to Get Back Together or talk about the relationship the two of you had.

This is great winning Your Ex Back advice that can help you get your ex back in your arms again. Maybe get a ring on their finger too.

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Here are 5 clues your ex still wants you back and how you can use this information to get back together with your ex.

1. The number one clue your ex wants you back is if they are single or make it a point to remain single. If it seems your ex is avoiding moving on, it could be that you hold a firm place in their heart and they are waiting for the perfect moment to get you back. If you want to get back together with your ex, and no one else seems to be good enough for your ex, it could be that no one can compare to you.

2. If your ex wants to become friends with you, if they spend a lot of time with you and enjoy your company, if they treat you like a really good friend and if they show you respect and attention it could mean that he or she really craves a relationship but fears rejection or doesn’t know how to approach you. You may want to say or do something to encourage your ex to make the next move, if you want to get back together with them.

3. If your ex is calling you regularly, if they remember the important things like your birthday, if they call or contact you for no reason it could be that they need to be around you and keep some kind of connection with you. It could mean that they can’t stop thinking about you, which is why they can’t stop calling or emailing you.

4. If your ex has become nosy, if your ex wonders where you are or who you’re with, if your ex seems jealous, annoyed or defensive when you bring up someone else or if a friend asks who you are seeing, it could mean your ex hates hearing about you being with anyone else but them.

5. When your ex shows remorse or regret concerning you or the relationship, or when your ex reminisces about the past as though he or she made a terrible mistake, it could mean that your ex actually feels that way and hates that they stupidly let you go. When you want to get Your Ex Back, you may want to give a hint that you miss the relationship, as well, so your ex will know they have the okay to move forward with you.

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#15: The Trash Talk - He/she trash talks you to EVERYONE they know, ESPECIALLY new dates and family members.

#14: The Garbage Disposal - They have thrown everything out that is related to you, ripped up your pictures, and deleted all your emails.

#13: The Block List - Your ex has changed their number, email addresses, have blocked you on social networking sites, email accounts, etc…

#12: The Blame Game - You are blamed for everything, and your ex thinks you ruined their life. They wish you would just die as a result.

#11: The Hurt Game - You hurt your ex, so now they do everything in their power to hurt you. They say nasty things, they play dirty mind games, and they actively try to destroy you.

#10: The Failure Game - Your ex takes enjoyment out of every failure you encounter, and they laugh and become happy if your life goes more downhill.

#9: The Revenge Game - Your ex gets revenge against you by using you in any possible manner.

#8: The “I Don’t Forgive You” - If your ex says this, it’s best to assume that your ex literally hates you and wants you to know that they will continue to do such forever.

#7: The Ignoring Phase - They won’t pick up the phone though they clearly see you just called, and they even ignore you if you call their family or talk to their friends.

#6: The “Moving On” Phase - Your ex does everything in their power to not be single again, and has been dating consistently since you broke up.

#5: The Jealousy Streak - He/she dates your enemies or best friends even just to make you jealous and to make you burn.

#4: The “I’m Better” Persona - Your ex drastically improves their life just to watch you WISH you didn’t break up with them, or to make you WISH you still had them back.

#3: The Winning Game - Your ex moves up ranks at work, joins the same clubs as you and becomes better at the sports or activities as you, and does everything better than you now just to throw it in your face.

#2: The Direct Insults - He/she knows EXACTLY what kinds of words or actions will hurt you, and they also know exactly what you hate. Thus, your ex proceeds to say and do everything which goes against your morals and values.

#1: The Hate Confession - Your ex will TELL you that they hate you, which is clearly communicating exactly how much they dislike you.

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By definition alone the two differ in that, love is based on an affinity while lust is based solely on desire. The two also differ in how they affect a relationship but sometimes it becomes difficult to separate the two because lust can exist in the presence of love. Analyzing a loving relationship and a lustful relationship separately will help us to learn to distinguish love from lust.

Love has a positive affect on a relationship because when love exists in a relationship both partners hold the happiness of the other in a high esteem and place the happiness of their partner ahead of their own desires.

Love affects relationships in a myriad of ways including how the couple interacts, the leisure activities they participate in and the longevity of the relationship. In a loving relationship the couple behaves thoughtfully towards each other and is mindful of their partner’s feelings. In this type of relationship, each partner places themselves ahead of their partner and they strive to treat each other lovingly and with respect. Also, in a loving relationship the leisure activities that the couple participates in are based on a mutual love and respect.

Activities are chosen with careful consideration to the partner’s feelings. In a loving relationship the partners typically engage in activities that they either either strongly agree on or those that are a compromise. While a couple in a loving relationship may not always be in complete agreement regarding leisure activities, they strive to compromise to ensure that both partners have the opportunity to engage in their preferred activities. Finally a relationship that is based on love is usually long lasting.

The presence of love in the relationship enables a couple to work through any problems or difficulties that arise in the relationship and helps the relationship to endure. The thoughtfulness and caring that exists in a loving relationship helps the relationship to grown and endure.

Conversely a lustful relationship may not necessary have a negative affect on a relationship but it also may not be as positive as a loving relationship. Similarly to love, lust also affects a relationship in regard to how the couple interacts, the activities the couple participate in and the durability of the relationship.

The primary difference between a lustful and a loving relationship is that while in a loving relationship the partners place a high value on the happiness of their partner, a lustful relationship is one in which the partners are consumed by their own desires. The partners in a lustful relationship place their needs and wants ahead of their partner’s desires. This alone is enough to make their partner feel disrespected and to not place a high value on the relationship.

The fundamental selfishness that exists in a lustful relationship trickles down and affects the activities in which the couple participates. While those in a loving relationship strive to compromise and find activities that they both enjoy, those in a lustful relationship are more prone to insist on participating in activities that they enjoy regardless of whether or not their partner will also enjoy this activity.

One final characteristic of a lustful relationship is that it is typically short lived. A lustful relationship is driven by passion and desire and once a goal is reached the partner becomes no longer desirable. With nothing else to drive the relationship it soon begins to wane and the couple often separates.

Lustful relationships are characterized by a selfishness and lack of respect that typically results in a short and tumultuous relationship.

Complicating the issue of separating love and lust is that it is often possible for lust to exist within a loving relationship. The existence of lust within a loving relationship is often driven by a desire to become closer to the partner. This is a natural occurrence as a physical relationship is extremely important in a romantic relationship.

When lust exists within a loving relationship it is not necessarily detrimental to the relationship. As long as the lust does not take over the love and become the dominant characteristic it can be a healthy part of the relationship. The opposite is not true, however.

A lustful relationship can not also include love. The primary characteristic of selfishness does not enable love to factor into a lustful relationship. Placing your own desires ahead of your partner’s precludes the formation of a loving bond.

While it’s not possible to have a lustful relationship with the existence of love a little bit of lust mixed into a loving relationship can lead to a closer connection and stronger bond for the couple.

Separating love from lust can be complicated but the key factors to remember is that a loving relationship is one based on selflessness and thoughtfulness while a lustful relationship is characterized by selfishness and thoughtlessness. These fundamental differences often affect whether or not a relationship will be long lasting and will endure the test of time.

The separation of love from lust is further complicated by the fact that lust can exist in a loving relationship. The opposite, however, is not possible. Understand that lust can factor into a loving relationship and have a positive affect on the relationship is key to understanding the differences between love and lust.

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With these key elements examined, a person may realize that they are too rapidly generating the feeling of falling in love, and in doing so, producing unfortunate consequences. A life filled with a great amount of broken hearts predictably points to a great amount of relationships in which the person fell in love too quickly. Once acknowledged as a source of heartaches, one can achieve a more realistic approach to falling in love and finding someone special.

The majority of adult single people undoubtedly desire the ultimate feeling of being in love with another person. Instilled in people’s minds is that love will bring happiness, safely and security. Most people are witness to a loving relationship from a very young age, as we witness the love of our parents. As adults, the media overwhelms us with love stories. Countless advertising bombards us to find love. When one is single, it may seem that everywhere they look; there are couples holding hands, talking and laughing together. This can produce an overpowering desire for a person to find love.

Real and genuine love means connecting in ways that are almost indescribable. Present are the key elements that each desire in a relationship. There is a strong emotional attachment, as well as an intense physical attraction. The two people in the relationship spent time thoroughly getting to know the each other. These people will understand each other quirks and habits. They will learn each other’s history and the life that they lived up until they met. After sometime, a feeling of comfort and admiration occurs. As cliché as it sounds, if love is going to happen, both will have a feeling of “fitting together” and “finding their better half”. If both people involved in the relationship are content and their desires fulfilled, as time moves on, an increasing feeling of devotion and affection will change into a deep and strong feeling of love.

Without these fundamentals in place, having the feelings of falling in love exceedingly prematurely can result in needless heartbreaking outcomes. It is true that being single can sometimes produce intense feelings of loneliness. These feelings of solitude and wanting acceptance into a loving relationship can make one push for a relationship that is not correct for them. Beginning to spend time with another, sometimes a person will mistake the feeling of acceptance for the feeling of love. Love is not something easily obtained. For long periods, love can escape us, as we search for that someone special that we wish for in our lives.

Telling yourself that you are in love, does not create love. If not all of the essentials of genuine love are in place, convincing yourself that you are in love does not magically produce those necessary elements. If in almost every relationship you enter, you fall in love within a couple weeks or even days, you must ask yourself; are you really in love?

Undoubtedly, falling in love produces a magnificent euphoric high. The emotion of finding one’s “soul mate” fulfills a deep desire to bond with someone. True love is such a rare find. In terms of realistic expectations, one simply cannot sincerely be in love with every person they meet or date. Allowing yourself to feel you are in love with almost everyone you connect with, in a small measure of time, only will lead to ultimate disappointment. Sincerely asking yourself the question, “Was it really true love?” may give you the knowledge that perhaps you did not actually experience love. This is not to imply you did not admire someone, like spending time with him or her or had lust for him or her. However, did real love exist? Comprehending that it did not, may lessen the sense of feeling betrayed and the feeling of being wounded from relationships gone astray.

To free yourself from being the victim of lost “love”, give yourself the time to unequivocally get to know and appreciate someone, allowing love to happen in it’s own due course. Do not impulsively rush into a state of feeling in love. Seriously consider all of the factors that ensure a real and lasting love. Give this feeling time to develop. Only then, can you truly know that you are in love.

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Romeo and Juliet loved. There love was so deep they could not live without the other. A love that pitted them against rival families who were filled with hatred. Families that would never accept their love.

William Shakespeare wrote this epic tail showing how love can be defeated by the quarreling surrounding families. Love can be devoured by hate to the point that the only hope of two people to hold unto their love is by going to their graves.

Today over fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce. Husbands and wives end their marriages stating:”Irreconcilable Differences” as the reason for there demise. But I tell you that it has nothing to do with their incompatibility, it has everything to do with our present day world.

We are a society separated by differences from skin color to ethnic backgrounds. We live in a world where everything, from our religion to our country, chooses whom we can love.

We have also become a society of workaholics. We are so burdened by our desire for things that we are chained to our work. When our spouse needs us, we can’t give except in material things. So love that once united becomes cold and every day trials become disasters.

Love and affection takes work. It takes spending time together. It takes making love often and forgetting the work we must accomplish in our life. Paul realized the need for strong committed relationship when he wrote these words in the Bible’s renown ‘love chapter’.

1 Corinthians 13: 1- 3, “I may be able to speak the languages of men and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell. I may have the gift of inspired preaching: I may have all knowledge and understand all secrets; I may have all the faith needed to move mountains-but if I have no love, I am nothing. I may give away everything I have, and even give up my body to be burned-but if I have no love, this does me no good.”

We live in a very complex world that fights against all forms of love. We are at war and couples are the favorite target of the unseen spiritual forces of evil. Because Satan is the god of this world, he roams the earth devouring love and turning cupids arrows of love into hate by turning couples against each other through fights and quarrels.

God is love and the destruction of love puts a stop to good in the world and allows the fallen angels of hell to inflict punishment on those who are not under the protection of God. Satan knows if he can destroy marriages he can stop healthy families from forming strong unions bound together with love.

Families who understand the fight and stay together no matter what they face in life. Couples who love even when it is hard to love. Wives and husbands that refuse to keep a record of everything their mate has done wrong.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, “Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up: and its faith, hope, and patience never fail.”

Satan’s influence destroys couples by using their emotions as a weapon to lash out. He keeps them in the clutches of jealousy and selfishness by reminding them how much time there mate spends with other people, instead of them.

But under the influence of the Spirit of God we are given another message. Truth teaches us to let go of each others faults, not to keep records of wrongs, and to allow forgiveness to heal our problems. The Spirit of God helps us to have patience and gives us hope that things will get better in future.

We live in a corrupt and evil world that demands that we serve it. In order to set up a house, we must work! The same must happen within the makeup of a marriage. We must constantly forgive and love and talk out our relationship problems so Satan doesn’t get a foothold into our lives and corrupt us through evil thoughts.

The only way we can do this is by holding tightly to the love we have for our husband or wife. We must recognize Satan’s influence in our thinking and fight for love.

We need to understand that Love is God and only through God can we stand firm and be unaffected by lives ups and downs. Because God is everlasting and eternal.

1Corinthians 13:8&9, “Love is eternal. There are inspired messages, but they are temporary; there are gifts of speaking in strange tongues, but they will cease; there is knowledge, but it will pass. For our gifts of knowledge and of inspired messages are only partial; but when what is perfect comes, then what is partial will disappear.”

Love helps us to face all forms of tragedies from the loss of a child to facing a disease or disability. Love helps us to dig our way out of financial crisis from job loss or company reorganization.

By facing this world, within the establishment of a strong relationship, we have strength. Jesus said when two or more pray together, He answers their prayers.

As people of faith we must pray for our relationships and hold tight when tragedies rear their ugly head. Together, couples can achieve miracles through faith in God, but when couples fight without God, they fail.

1Corthinthians 13: 11-13, “When I was a child, my speech, feelings, and thinking were all those of a child; now that I am a man, I have no more use for childish ways. What we see now is like a dim image in a mirror; then we shall see face-to-face. What I know now is only partial; then it will be complete-as complete as God’s knowledge of me.

Meanwhile these three remain; faith, hope, and love; and the greatest of these is love.”

We must put aside childish emotions that allow jealousy, evil, and all forms of strive to enter into our marriages and think like adults. We must learn to overcome adversity with love.

Love is not a Shakespearean tragedy that results in both parties dying. Love is a force that stands up against all opposition and wins. Love produces hope and faith that nothing is impossible when God is the head of our household.

Cupid’s arrows hit strong fortresses of love. Couples who would Fight For Love!

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Break ups can hurt like hell, and they happen for hundreds of reasons. We take our ability to get an ex back for granted so we just move on, too many of us do it. We need to see that relationships for alot of people are hard to start and it can be even harder to make them go the distance.

We need to realize how lucky we are to be one of the hundreds of millions of people who have loved and lost someone they could have shared their life with. People in this world die alone. Over two million people in the United States alone die every year, and in this two million there is a 1/2 percentage of people who die unmarried and with no one at their deathbed with them. Believe it or not but this is a terrifying truth that is happening in the world we live.

There are people in the world who die and leave no one and nothing behind to remember them for who they were. Dying alone is absolutely not an option for me, and it is not an option for you either. If you want to win your ex girl back you first need to know the most common mistakes we make in our attempts to get her back in our arms.

Most of us in our efforts to get an ex back tend to harass and bombard them by pressuring them into getting back together with us. Some of do things that are so crazy, it makes our ex seek help from the authorities. We need to back off and give our ex their space and time to think about us, the break up, and why it happened.

Instead of doing this we send them twenty calls and texts in an hour, or we show up at places we know she’ll worst of which being her job. So show her your maturity and stability to handle the break up by giving her space and distance away from you.

The next thing you need if you want to win your ex girl back is that you need to have an ability to change and show your ex positive steps toward change if you want her to serious consider getting back together with you. Change your look, get a new hairstyle, or change your attitude toward the things that usually upset and frustrate.

Your ex needs to see these changes to believe that you’re going to be capable of fixing the problems that caused the relationship to sink. This is how to win your ex girl back and get her back in your life again.

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While this is true, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t men and women who don’t want to Get Back Together with their ex. A lot of us are afraid of rejection from our ex and so we convince ourselves that there’s nothing that can be done to save the relationship.

We also resort to our friends and family members for advice only to be told that we should forget about the relationship and our ex. We take their advice forgetting the fact that it isn’t our friends or family members who have spent years and decades even in a relationship with our ex.

We have to remember that we know more about our ex than our friends and family members, or anybody on the internet and thats why we should give the relationship we have with our ex a second chance. Also, in relationships we build a bond and connection to our partner.

We create memories that are impossible to forget, and we share personal things about ourselves with our partner that no other person in the world knows but them. Don’t throw your relationship with your ex only to move on and share your mind and body all over again with someone else.

If you are someone who can’t stop thinking “I want my ex back now,” what you need to know is that your ex wants to see that you can maturely handle the break up and that you have the stability to still live your life after it.

A lot of men and women do things like calling and texting their ex several times a day, they flood their ex with gifts, and they smother their ex by showing up at places they know their ex will be, worst of which being their job.

This is no way to get Your Ex Back in your arms. What you need to do is get a proven system to get your ex back or you should give your ex time to be alone. Let them be by themselves for a week or two before you contact them to talk about the problems you both feel ended the relationship.

After the two of you can identify those problems, then the two of you should talk about what you both can do to fix them together. This is what you should do if you are in a “I want my ex back” situation.

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